by vivrant thang on all about me
So take me as I am,
or have nothing at all.
Just take me as I am,
or have nothing at all.
Don’s poignant post over at Minus The Bars and a conversation with several bloggers over the past couple of weeks has me thinking hard about the direction I want to take Songs in the Key of Life.
I only started this blog a few months ago, but it’s been cooking on the back burner of my mind since the beginning of the year. I’m an avid blog reader, though a not-so-avid writer, but I have always felt that I had a place in the blogosphere. I think one of the major things that was holding me back was wondering what persona I wanted to put out there. How much did I want to share? What would people think of me if I shared some of the not-so-good parts of myself?
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The fact that I used to weigh more than Shaq
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The fact that I can be undisciplined, lazy, messy, occasionally mean-spirited, and foul-mouthed
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The fact that at 30, I am still ambivalent about marriage
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The fact that I’m just not down for the celibacy blues and at any given time, I may have a cut-buddy or two
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The fact that I think our energy and attention would be better placed with the Megan Williams and the Dunbar Village cases (for example) than in sympathizing with two dumb asses, TI and Micheal Vick
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The fact that I, Head Negress in Charge of the Bilal Stan Association, am an official Bilal stalker š
Well, that last one isn’t all that bad, right?
If I put all this and more on my blog for anyone that wanders in here to read, it leaves me open to all kinds of criticism. Before I started the blog, I wondered how I would deal with that that. I’m not always the most patient or tolerant person. Say or do the wrong thing and it can get ugly….sort of like if say, NBA baller Greg Oden and Craig Mack were to procreate.
I think you get the picture.
However, like any writer, I come to realize when I’m putting my thoughts out there for anyone to read, I have to expect people to disagree, though it should be done respectfully. In some of my posts, I’ve actually encouraged people to comment, particularly if they disagreed with me. I like engaging with those who have an informed opposing viewpoint, again when it’s respectfully presented. It opens up my mind a bit.
I still battle with how much I’ll share on this blog about myself and about others close to me. I’ve already called out some of my friends for one thing or another. Nothing I haven’t said to their faces. I’m just starting to share this space with more of them which tells me that I’m settling in and getting more comfortable.
As I’ve said many times, I don’t know where this blog is going but I do know that everything you read here will be me, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Feel free to disagree (say it with me, re-spect-fully) or even call me a crazy fool (I might agree). But you’ll have to take me as I am. Or have nothing at all.
SONGS IN THE KEY OF LIFE 
Well, I like who you are! Not that it matters, but I do š
You’re my first commenter ever, B. It matters!
#The fact that at 30, I am still ambivalent about marriage
#The fact that Iām just not down for the celibacy blues and at any given time, I may have a cut-buddy or two
Amen. Amen.
I couldn’t imagine that warm smile of yours ever being mean-spirited.
And I couldn’t imagine you ever weighing more than Shaq.
Props on the weight loss.
You know your blog is great and if you act too much of a fool on here, well, you may get called on it , but this is YOUR blog š
@tjjohnson-Thanks for stopping by! You feeling me I see. š
@ don – Now you know – never trust a big butt and a smile! And yea, I’m very blessed to have been delivered from that!
@ Ms. E – Oh I’m gonna act a fool. That’s a given! Folks just got to keep their calling out respectful or I’ll call SIP over to ban them š
VT, got a question… you gonna take the blog somewhere, or is it gonna take you somewhere? Sometimes these things drive us more so than we drive them.
Either way, you are a fresh voice in this blogosphere wilderness… we’re on the journey with you!
T, why you got me thinking this early in the morning before I’ve had a chance to spike my eggnog?! That ain’t right!
You’re right about this thing driving me! I’ve just been blogging for a few months and I’m amazed at how it’s never far from my thoughts. I’m always thinking about that next post.
I’m still thinking this through but I definitely feel like I’m in the driver’s seat. I’ve seen people get some phenomenal opportunties by simply writing about what they love. That’s my plan for now. To stay disciplined and write consistently…continue knocking the dust off my skills. Continue discovering other “vivrant” voices out there and see what happens. I definitely see good things happening in ’08 in this space. 8 is my lucky number š
Thanks for riding with a sista. It’s gonna be an interesting journey, I think!
VT: As the boys from Parliament-Funkadelic like to say:
“Think. Think. It ain’t illegal… yet!” {smile}
And ridin’ wit a sista like you, on a journey like dis… the pleasure is all mine!
I’m glad I stumbled onto your blog. My girl called me tonight and she was like…you should go on The Moment Of Truth. Because I blog on myspace and tell all my bizness. I said there are some things I don’t want to tell the truth about. Music..I can talk about that all day. Anyway, I like your style of blogging and from what I have read we have gone to alot of the same concerts around the city. Keep up the good work.
I’m glad you’re here as well and I appreciate all of your comments. We definitely need to connect at one of these shows. Check my concert calendar when you visit and if there’s ever a show that you’ll be at too, let me know and we can meet.
The Moment of Truth show is addictive. I just want to see someone try to go all the way!
That sounds like a plan. Us bloggers need to support each other.
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